Everyone that you hold up will NEVER fall into the place God created him or her to be in.
Support and Encourage will never be the same.
To support someone by definition means to hold up or bear up the weight of a thing. The weight can be a physical or emotional weight. Encouragement is just the opposite of support. To encourage someone means to inspire with spirit or confidence, to promote, foster or advance.
In life, people have confused helping people with supporting, carrying the weight of their issues. People were never created to support people. I know that sounds horrible. Sometimes the true is horrible but just because it’s horrible doesn’t make it less the truth. God is supposed to be our support. People are created to foster, promote and to inspire confidence for people to keep moving in life and finish the race without taking on the weight of the issues of the person that need the help.
Right now there are many people who have taking on the weights in the lives of others (husband, wife, children, relatives and friends) either willingly or accidentally. The heart behind taking on the weights is a heart to help but a mind of ignorance. God tells us in His word to come to Him all that labor and are overburdened because He is the only one that can give you rest, ease and relieve of the weight. (Matt.11: 28-30) The catch is that you have to come to Him.
If you carry the weight of another person, that person will never have rest or fall in the place of rest. Rest only comes because a person comes to the end of trusting in his ability and the abilities of others to handles the burdens that life brings. God is the only one equipped to handle the burdening of life.
In life, if a person has no human support (no financial escape goat, no emotional baggage carrier and no one to covering up mistakes) the pressure from the weight of all life’s issues and circumstances will eventually cause that individual to become tired of trying to carry the weight and come to the end of he self-effort (I quit, I cant do this). This would be a bad thing if we lived on a planet that people didn’t understand the meaning of help.
Help is to give or provide what is necessary to accomplish a task or satisfy a need. People need to be encouraged to go to God. God is the only one who said He could give you rest.
We are not God. In many situations we imitate God and His ability to carry burdens and remove yolks. These actions are unacceptable. People call us when they need money, wisdom, and insight and help in general. We have to stop and know our place. Our place is to encourage and help person to develop a relationship with God and give Him their weight.